How to Prepare for Your First Meeting with a Sexual Assault Attorney

Taking the first step toward legal action after a sexual assault can feel overwhelming. Maybe you’re nervous. Maybe you don’t even know where to start. That’s completely normal. Meeting with a sexual assault attorney is a big step, and being prepared can help you feel more in control. What should you bring? What should you ask? Do you have to share everything right away?

This guide breaks it all down. If you’re in California, there are specific laws and resources that protect survivors. A little preparation can go a long way in making your consultation as helpful as possible.

What a sexual assault attorney can do for you

Before your meeting, it helps to understand what a sexual assault attorney actually does. They’re more than just legal advisors – they’re your advocates. They can help you:

• Figure out if you have a case for a civil lawsuit.
• Navigate the criminal justice system if you choose to report.
• Get restraining orders or other legal protections.
• Apply for victim compensation through California’s Victim Compensation Board (CalVCB).

One thing to remember: Attorneys are there to protect your rights, not to pressure you into anything. They’re not police officers. They’re not therapists. They’re legal experts who can help you make informed decisions about your next steps.

What to bring to your first meeting

You don’t need to have everything perfectly organized, but bringing certain materials can help your attorney assess your case. If you can, try to gather:

• Police reports, if you filed one – but if not, that’s okay too.
• Medical records from any exams or treatments. In California, sexual assault forensic exams are free, even if you don’t report the assault to the police.
• Texts, emails, social media messages, or other communications that might be relevant.
• A timeline of events. Just basic notes on dates, locations, and key details.
• Witness contact information, if anyone saw or knows anything about what happened.

If you don’t have all of this, don’t panic. Your attorney can help figure out what’s needed and how to get it.

Questions to ask your sexual assault attorney

Your first consultation is your chance to get clarity on your options. Some good questions to ask:

• What are my legal options? Can I pursue criminal charges, a civil lawsuit, or both?
• What are the deadlines? California’s statute of limitation for criminal charges is often ten years, while civil lawsuits typically need to be filed within three years of discovering emotional harm.
• How can I protect my privacy? What are my rights regarding confidentiality?
• What outcomes should I expect? What challenges might come up?
• What are your fees? Do you work on contingency, or will I need to pay upfront?
• How long will this take? Will I have to testify in court?
• What are the next steps? What should I do after this meeting?

No question is too small or unimportant. Your attorney is there to help you understand your rights and options.

What should you share?

You don’t have to tell your whole story in the first meeting. But your attorney will need some basic details, such as:

• When and where the assault happened.
• If you knew the perpetrator.
• Whether you reported the assault or received medical care.
• Any injuries or ongoing medical issues.
• How the assault has affected you emotionally.

If talking about this is too much, that’s okay. You can take your time. Your attorney should create a safe, supportive space where you can share as you feel comfortable.

Prepare yourself emotionally

This meeting might be tough. That’s understandable. A few things that might help:

• Bring a support person. A trusted friend or advocate can be a huge comfort.
• Write things down. If speaking feels overwhelming, having notes can help.
• Take breaks if you need them. No rush.
• Remember, you’re in control. You decide how much to share and when.

If you need emotional support, consider reaching out to organizations like the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CALCASA).

What to expect after the consultation

Once your attorney has reviewed your case, they can outline your options. The next step could include:

• Collecting more documents or evidence.
• Filing paperwork for a lawsuit or criminal case.
• Scheduling follow-up meetings for further discussions.
• Giving you time to think before making a decision.

Your attorney should keep you updated throughout the process. If anything feels unclear, don’t hesitate to ask questions or even get a second opinion if you need to.

Moving forward

Meeting with a sexual assault attorney is a big step toward seeking justice and healing. It’s okay to feel nervous or uncertain. And you are not alone. With the right preparation, your first meeting can be a productive, empowering experience.

If you or someone you love needs legal guidance, don’t wait. There are people ready to help. Take that first step today.

No one should have to face this journey alone. At Taylor & Ring, we’ve helped survivors seek justice and find the closure they deserve. Whether you need legal guidance, protection, or just someone to help you understand your options, we’re here. Call us or use our contact form to schedule a free consultation.